By Mirabelle Summers
Author of Get A Great Guy Guide
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Talking About Feelings With A Man
Have you ever shared how you’re feeling with a man and he looks at you like you’re crazy? Have you been told that you are too emotional by a man?
It is important to understand that men simply do not understand or process emotions like women. They also don’t know how to react the way women would like them to when feelings are shared.
Today I’d like to teach you how you can share your feelings with a man without scaring him away.
Yes, men do have feelings
You may be tempted to say that men don’t have feelings because they are content to never share what- if any-emotions that are circulating through their minds.
Contrary to popular opinion, men do have feelings. They simply do not process them the way women do.
Women share, men act
When women are faced with emotions, they want to share. They want to get it all out and much of the time they want their partner to be the one who gets to hear it.
Men, on the other hand, when they are faced with emotions rising, want to do something. They don’t want to sit and spew out their hurts, frustrations, anger, etc.
Many would much rather go tinker in the garage with the truck, go golfing or engage in murder via the Play Station.
Men do not process emotions as easily as women. They may become quiet or need to leave for a while in order to calm down.
Apply little pressure
If a man feels pressure to meet your emotional needs, he may end up pulling away. It’s not because he doesn’t love you; it’s because he just can’t do it or doesn’t know how to respond.
He’s not wired that way.
He is wired to fix problems, so if you come to him saying, “I feel this way and I feel that way…” he simply goes into “fix” mode and will start listing the things that you need to do so that you will feel better.
You, on the other hand, just want him to listen and console you. Nine times out of ten, he won’t unless you specifically tell him (and remind him) that that is all you need from him.
The bottom line
If you ask older women who’ve been married for decades for some marital advice, many of them will tell you to get a best friend to share your emotions with because your husband is not capable of meeting your emotional needs.
It’s true. They have learned a valuable lesson.
Understand that your man will not be able to empathize with you as well as a woman. So if you want to vent about the gossip at work or how you don’t look good in any of your clothes, it is probably best to do that with your sister, mother, or a friend.
If you tell your man, he is likely to think you are simply moaning and groaning (again) and tell you to get a new job that you like and buy some new clothes.
He is not trying to be insensitive.
Remember, he simply goes into “fix it” mode and thinks he is doing you justice by helping fix your problems.
Of course, there are times when you need to talk to your man about something that is bothering you regarding the relationship.
Feel free to do so, but use positive communication and share without judgment or premeditations.
For example, instead of saying, “I’m sick and tired of you always hanging out with your friends and we never get to hang out with mine,” say something like this:
“I love hanging out with your friends, dear, but we haven’t really spent much time with mine. I’d love for you to get to know them better so how do you think we can go about that?”
Keeping it light and positive will go much better and your man will think highly of you for understanding the difference between man and woman’s ability to process emotions.
I hope this has helped you to understand better how a man and woman differ when processing and sharing emotions.
You can share your feelings with your man without scaring him away as you acknowledge that it is not his job to meet all of your emotional needs.
Additionally, don’t forget to simply tell your man what you need from him: just a listening ear, an affirmation, a hug, etc.
That way he won’t go right into “fix it” mode and you will feel heard and affirmed.
After all, isn’t that all you really want anyway?
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